Around Here: Week 36

Letting go... of keeping the house clean all the time. After a year in our house, we have settled nicely into a once-a-week house cleaning routine, but last week (our first week back in school) our routine got thrown off, and I wasn't able to clean the hard floor in the entry, kitchen and dining room before a family gathering.  And guess what? No one cared! Everyone had fun anyway, and the food still tasted amazing. It was such a good lesson and reminder for me.  I can't do all the things, all the time, and that's okay.

Hosting... a Labor Day BBQ with Josh's family.  It was so fun to have everyone over, and all the food (especially his dad's ribs) was delicious!!!  My kids had a great time, and it made me fall in love with my house all over again.  The way it allows me to host people and have so much fun.

Swimming... one last time at our local water park with my sisters' family + my parents.  It was bittersweet to know it would be the last time this year, but Wyatt is super hopeful he will hit a growth spurt and be tall enough to go on the BIG slides next year.

Taking... the kids to Silverwood, a nearby theme park, after they earned free passes for doing 600 minutes of reading (each) in the spring.  Josh and I only had to pay to get ourselves in.  We waited until the last day to take them, which was not our plan, just the way it happened. I am so glad we made the effort to go.  It ended up being the absolute perfect way to end the summer, and our little family made SO many good memories that day.  I will be doing a post about Silverwood next week, and I'll let you know any tips or tricks we learned.

Making... tortillas for our family.  My kids love nothing more than homemade tortillas.  My recipe calls for four ingredients (6 cups flour, 4 tbsp shortening, 2 cups water & 2 tsp salt) then you roll them into golf ball size balls, and roll them out.  Fry on each side until lightly browned and voila! Homemade tortillas!  We make quesadillas out of these (using shredded cheese and canned chicken for maximum simplicity) and we also make enchiladas & tacos. My kids love them so much, they ask to have one plain, warmed up with salt & butter on top.

Watching... as wildfires continue spreading throughout Washington State.  It's so sad to see so much of our forests going up in smoke.

Coping... with smoke conditions that are limiting the amount of time we can safely spend out of doors. It's been like this off and on throughout the summer, but never for this many days in a row. We are all getting a bit stir crazy. The kids want to walk to school (as is our usual) but instead I am driving them each day, and it's bumming us all out. Not to mention the twins are VERY BUSY HUMANS and could really use some rambunctious time spent outside! I'm hoping it will start to clear out, but until it rains, this fire season will just carry on.  Even the school is having indoor recess because conditions are so bad.

Dealing... with a sad, sad Wyatt at morning drop off.  We have tried a myriad of different things (walking, playing on the playground or reading before school, having him walk alone, having him walk with me...) and no one thing seems to work consistently. He did the same thing last year, and eventually it got better, but never 100%.  Even at the end of the year, there would be some days that he would struggle to say goodbye. So I am taking it a day at a time, asking him what he needs and trying my best to make the goodbye quick so he can move into the classroom and move on from seeing me go.  One thing I have found is that any change to the routine is hard for him. Flexibility is not his strong suit. Like yesterday instead of reading (as we had planned) I ended up on the phone with the doctor for one of his brothers, and that was enough to tip the scales and get him crying.  It's so hard because I feel torn in so many directions. I think a quick drop off just before the bell would be best for him, but the twins really like to be at school early so they can see their friends and play at that early AM recess... I'm not sure what the answer is, but if anyone has a Cloning Device they are willing to loan me for school dropoff in the morning, I'd sure appreciate a Shelly2.0.

Struggling... with parenting. Lately I feel like I am making decisions for them that I know are best, but that they hate.  (This is perhaps the litmus test for good parenting. Go figure.)
For instance, last weekend I deleted one of the twins' favorite games off the tablets because I discovered it had a "Live" mode and you could play/interact with other people.  The twins are nine years old. They are not old enough or mature enough to handle that responsibility, so for me it was a no brainer. But their hearts were broken. Logan wasn't himself for two days after that.
I've also had to send one or more boys to school not feeling 100% because I knew they were fine, even if they didn't believe they were fine. (regular "tummy/headache/tiredness" stuff) It's a fine line between being sympathetic and being taken advantage of, and I have to be careful. Not only do I not want them home if they are well, but I don't believe they should be missing school so close to the beginning of the school year. They are still learning the routines and teacher expectations, and I really want them there, everyday, barring serious illness.
Keeping them from playing outside or riding to school has also been a battle.  It's challenging because most of the time we can't smell the fire smoke, or really see the bad conditions, so they want me to grant them their freedom.  But I know from my Air Matters app that conditions are bad and that it's best for their health if they limit the time they spend outside.

Feeling... sad & overwhelmed this week as I navigate my life.  I've been looking at some ways to supplement our income, and I've been struggling with bad self esteem/image and I've been paralyzed by indecision.  Ahh! I just want to know the answers to all my questions and I want someone to tell me what to do. I am just not up to adulting and making grown up decisions all on my own, and the general melancholy I've been feeling is getting old quick. (And it's only been a week!) I am hoping as we settle into our school routine and the smoke leaves that I will be able to get outside more (which is so, so good for my soul) and start feeling like life is a little more manageable. It would also be most helpful if my kids stopped being so full of emotions and neediness (haha!) which inevitably leads to my feeling their emotions & worrying over their constant neediness. #goodluck right?

Reading... Anything is Possible, Present Over Perfect, The Magic of Motherhood, & The Magicians Assistant, and The Whipping Boy to the boys at bedtime. I am loving my kids back in school because it allows me so much more quiet time to read and pursue things I enjoy.  What a blessing.

A friend sent me this after my post yesterday:
It's just perfect. 

The kids will be fine. For sure. 


Kristin in Alaska said...

My nephew was recently diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder. One of his symptoms is having a very hard time with changes. How you said Wyatt responded to you needing to take a phone call instead of reading together made me think of my nephew. Maybe Google it and read through the checklist. I hope school drop off gets easier for you both!

Marilynn Raatz said...

Oh Dora!! Haha!! I am going to make tortillas!! I may have told you this story - it's sad and you may want to hurt your dad, but I had surgery when you kids were little, and of course the floor was sticky. I mentioned to your dad that it really needed to be mopped. He said "Don't worry, it can wait till you're better". And he meant it in the most sincere and caring way. It seriously did not occur to him to do it. He truly didn't care and neither did you kids. So good for you!!
I am so proud of the boys (and you and Josh) for the reading they did and that you took them!!
I found parenting much harder when you all got older. You are doing a wonderful job.

Ashley said...

That story about Wyatt makes my heart so sad...for both of you! xoxo

Tabitha Studer said...

Sending you love and patience with the smoke! I honestly don't feel like myself without outdoor time and the kids are monsters without it - so momma, I feel for you!! And wyatt, sweet boy! Hang in there momma! How about a special bracelet that you both have that he can wear to school? Also - watch the mail ;)

Totally using your tortilla recipe! Thanks for sharing - making them homemade has been on my meaning to do list for forever!

Ive definitely been there worrying I've
right decisions and feeling immobilized! Thinking

Elini Vilardi said...

I took a screen shot of quote at the end! Bahaha! I love it!

Elini Vilardi said...

I took a screen shot of quote at the end! Bahaha! I love it!