1.17.2018

Best Books of 2017

Tabitha wanted to know my favorite reads of 2018. 
So I pulled together a short list of my very favorites, starting with

The best book of 2018:

The best of 2018 has to be, hands down, Inside the O'Briens, which is the story of Joe O'Brien, a Massachusetts police officer who has Huntington's Disease.  Each of Joe's four children has a 50/50 chance of inheriting the disease.  The book follows the family through his disease & the agonizing decision of whether to be tested or not.
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(I also highly recommend Genova's other books, 


Honorable mentions include:

The main character's little boy keeps asking for his other mother, has horrible nightmares and refuses to bathe because of memories of being held under water.  But he's only four, and he doesn't have another mother.  Janie attempts to find answers for her son and her story collides with Jerome Anderson who is working on a book about children who remember past lives.  

{Best re-read of the year}
If you haven't read Anne recently, you should. 
I swear she makes me see the world differently.

Book I most highly recommend for mama's of any age.
Kenison reminds us (beautifully) just how fleeting this time with our babes is.

Such a good YA book about depression.


Favorite children's book:

This book is so soothing.  I love the pictures and the words.
Carly does too. 

Favorite Read-Aloud Chapter book:

This book lead to so many amazing conversations with my (nine year old) twins this summer.  We were able to talk about appearances, differences, and compassion.  The conversations came naturally throughout each chapter.  After reading the book, we then saw the movie, which was amazing.  I highly recommend both. 

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1.16.2018

Books I Read In 2017

In 2016 I read 22 books.
My goal for 2017 was to read 24 books.
In the end I read 67!

Books I Read in 2017:
Truly, Madly, Guilty
The Shack
The Alchemist
What Was Mine
Chasers of the Light
The Memory of Light
Believing God
The Precious One
Silver Bay
The Forgetting Time
The Gift of an Ordinary Day
The Memory of Water
Uninvited
Inside The O'Briens
Britt-Marie Was Here
The Girl on the Train
And Every Morning The Way Home Gets Longer & Longer
Anne of Green Gables
The Inheritance
Anne of Avonlea
The Here And Now
Anne of the Island
Into the Water
The Mountain Between Us
Bear Town
Dreamland Burning
The Dry
Confessions of a Domestic Failure
The Identicals
Everything Everything
The Island
Eleanor + Park
The Stars Are Fire
Freakonomics
The Hate U Give
The Summer I Turned Pretty
It's Not Summer Without You
Small Victories
Love Warrior
The Magician's Assistant
Made To Crave
The Wonder
I Liked My Life
The Boys In The Boat
Yes, Please
The Couple Next Door
The Selection
The Elite
The Heir
The One
The Handmaid's Tale
Winter Street
Winter Stroll
Scream Free Parenting
The Crown
State of Wonder

Children's Books We Read:
The BFG
The Other Side of the Mountain
Wonder
Magic Finger
I Survived: The Eruption of Mt. St. Helens
Tales of a Fourth Grade Nothing
Stone Fox
The Chocolate Touch
The Whipping Boy
Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus
The Magician's Elephant


Underlined books are books I would HIGHLY recommend.
I've linked those few.
Happy Reading!

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1.15.2018

Sledding with Cousins














{I love Wyatt's hands up in the air!}




On New Years Day we rounded the kids up and headed back to Wenatchee to meet my sister for some snowy hill sledding with the cousins (and to get the Christmas-present Nerf-guns the twins forgot at their house when we were there with my parents. ...shaking my head... Kids!?! amiright?).  It turned out to be the perfect day.  Grey, but warm with no wind.  Carly lasted in the cold much longer than I thought she would, and we basically let the boys sled until they ran out of steam. I even went down a few times with Wyatt.  What a blast!

It was just a great time, and the drive home was beautiful.  
A wonderful way to start the new year. 

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1.12.2018

Around Here: Week Two {2018}












(Wrestle on the trampoline where there's no mud?
Where's the fun in that, mom?!?)

milk mustaches 

milk mustaches












Making... Xtra Math a daily habit for the boys.  I can't believe the speed with which they are memorizing addition facts.

Turning... a corner with Logan in terms of his education.  The last year and a half, it's been Josh and I worried, invested, teaching, working, stressing about how Logan is doing in school.  Earlier this week Logan did not do so well on a test he took (an important test) and honestly, he was more upset than either Josh or myself.  He nearly cried when the teacher told him his score, and he immediately told me upon seeing me at parent pick up.  Then he told Josh as soon as he got home.  I could tell this bad test score was really eating him up, which is a new thing.
It's not that I'm glad he's upset. But I am glad he's invested.  I am glad he cares.  I am glad to see that he has liked the feeling of doing well (in class he's been doing so well recently) and doesn't like the feeling of knowing he didn't do his best.  I sure hope this trend continues.

Losing... my Grandpa Harold last weekend.  While we are happy for him, out of pain now, and with so many of his loved ones, we are sad for ourselves to have lost him.

Relishing... the opportunity to dress Carly everyday.  Nearly two years later, I still enjoy it.  Pinks& purples, and sparkles and cute shoes & coats... it's just so fun!

Finishing... Idaho and Winter Storms.  Both were very good, especially Idaho which I could not put down over the last week.  Next up is Winter Solstice (#4 in the Winter Street series by Elin Hildbrand) and Happier at Home, which I am leading in The Inspired Readers Book Club for February.  Please join us on Facebook!

Eating... better than ever.  Not perfect, but better.  No coffee, no soda and no candy.  We indulge on Saturdays (pizza and dessert) and the rest of the week, we are careful to limit sugar and carbohydrate intake.  I've lost seven pounds in ten days which has me stunned.  And the thing is, I'm not starving.  It's awesome.  In addition to the weight loss, after the initial terrible sugar detox, I am now headache free and I am so grateful.

Buying... new hand towels and realizing how much little things can bring me joy and increase my happiness.

Enjoying... my first bouquet of spring tulips, which I bought for myself at the grocery store because I need the reminder of the promise of spring's return. 
Also enjoying Carly being able to join the big boys for bedtime stories with Josh.  She's so sweet perched on Josh's knee, anxiously awaiting the next page turn.

Focusing... on small joys in these dark, grey days of January.  Like the rainbow of bowls that my mom bought me for Christmas.  The bright yellow of the new hand towels I bought.  The warmth of the washcloth I use to clean Carly's face & hands after breakfast.  The feeling those tulips bring into the dining room and house with their crisp leaves and upright blooms.  When I feel that jolt of joy, I am trying to stop for a minute and really relish it.

Grateful... for my mornings.  Indeed I do wake up (very, very) early three times a week, but honestly, it makes our weekday mornings run so smoothly, that it's almost okay. (I will admit that 3:30am is ridiculous, and 5:30 would be far more reasonable... but a job that lets me stay home with my babies is worth a little sacrifice, I guess!) And my early early mornings have me feeling like waking up at 6:15am to jump in the shower after Josh on those other days is a luxury- that's sleeping in! ;)  So overall our mornings start off on the right foot (with me showered and ready for the day before the kids even hit the hallway) and then with our new meal plan, I am making a real breakfast everyday- eggs, usually, and sausage- so we are sitting together to eat, instead of having cereal at staggered intervals throughout the morning.  As much as I am longing for summer (three boys= outside time is a necessity), these dark mornings definitely have a cozy feel to them.

Loving... my kids' empathetic hearts.  Wyatt earned an ice cream sundae at school (which he said should have been called an "ice cream Monday" since that's when they had them.  He loves plays on words, that kid.) and some of his classmates did not.  When I asked him his best and worst at dinner on Monday, he said his "best" was the ice cream sundae.  But he said it was also his worst because he really wished he could have shared his ice cream with his friends.
He confided that his closest friend hadn't earned the treat and that Wyatt really wanted to give him his.  I asked if his friend cried, and Wyatt said, "No! And thank goodness, because then I would have cried!"
Later in the week Wyatt was in trouble for breaking the rules and went into his room for a timeout.  He lay on his bed, crying loudly, when Josh walked by and saw that Carly  had joined him in his timeout, and had her little arm around his back, just laying next to him in his sadness.  What an example of tender empathy.

Feeling... blessed to get real mail from a friend.  You know who you are, and I am so grateful for you.  Reading your words and knowing we are in the trenches together, stretched out across this country though we are, brings me such joy.  And I have to say, both Jack and Wyatt (as they came up behind me reading your card) asked incredulously if that was your real handwriting and then were disbelieving when I said that yes, that was your penmanship.  They both think you're tricking me and it's a computer font.  Haha!  I heart your handwritten notes, my friend!  Be on the lookout for a reply.

Laughing... at my kids interviews.  I found this list of questions posted by my friend Kristina and had so much fun asking each of my boys all the questions.  Some of their answers cracked me up!  Logan said my job was to keep them alive.  Jack said that if he had to live without me he would end up homeless at Winco (our local grocery store) eating hot Cheetohs.  And Wyatt said I annoy him by making him do chores.  (That was a theme throughout all three.)  I really loved to see how in tune with me Jack is, though, knowing what I love to do and what makes me happy.  He's my mini-me.

Also laughing (not very kindly) at Carly as she tried to crawl under the baby gate I set up so she couldn't join Wyatt and his friend as they played down the hall.  She was so upset.  She kept coming to me saying, "Go over! Go over!" She wanted so badly to join those big boys!  #littlesisterlife

Suffering... with so much mud! We have had rain for two weeks and I am so over it. Where is the snow? The snow at least is clean!  Four kids with mud is terrible!!!

Praying... that Wyatt's broken foot is healed.  He has his follow up on Tuesday with the foot specialist and after ten weeks in the cast/boot, we are all ready for him to be done with it! He came home with this today--
MY DREAM:
"I hope I get my cast off this Tuesday so I can jump and hop and get exercise in PE." 
And that picture? 
It's him int he chair at the doctors office, 
nd the guy with black hair is his foot specialist, Dr. Wu.  
Oh man I love that kid. 

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2018 Kid Questionnaires

LOGAN HENRY:
1) What's Your Name? 
Logan Henry Cunningham
2) How old are you? 
Nine and a half
3) What is something I say a lot? 
Say “okay mom”.
4) What makes me happy? 
When I say “okay mom”, or be nice to Jack and Wyatt.
5) What makes me sad? 
When I punch Jack or Wyatt. Or disrespect you.
6) How tall am I? 
5’6”
7) What's my favorite thing to do? 
Read books.
8) What is my favorite food? 
Dad’s pizza.
9) What is my favorite drink? 
That stuff you get at Red Robin (a Shirley temple).
10) If I could go anywhere, where would I go? 
Vancouver. No, no, no. Canada.
*11) Do you think you could live without Me? 
No and yes. No because I don’t know how to make my dinner. I couldn’t get the ingredients. Yes because.... no. Never mind. I can’t.
12) How do I annoy you? 
Oh! You make me do a bunch of crappy chores.
13) What's my fave TV show? 
The house shows. Property Brothers. You like it because they’re twins and we’re twins.
14) What is my favorite music to listen to? 
Country. Kick the dust up, riding dirty, I am Not Alone.
15) What is my job? 
Keep us alive. You also teach the Chinese how to speak English.
16) What's my favorite color? 
I have no idea. I guess pink? No, sunset orange.
17) On a scale from 1 to 10, how much do you love me? 
Zero. Just kidding. A nine. 
Remember that annoying part? That’s why it’s only a nine, honey. That, and the chores.


JACK SAWYER:
1) What's Your Name? 
Jack Sawyer Cunningham
2) How old are you? 
9
3) What is something I say a lot? 
Every single day you say, “Don’t worry about the time, Jack!”
4) What makes me happy? 
Probably walking to school. Not having a migraine. Sleeping good. Us not waking you up. Reading a book in a quiet place. Taking naps.
5) What makes me sad? 
When we’re mean to our brothers.
6) How tall am I? 
5’4”
7) What's my favorite thing to do? 
Make cards when you’re not stressed out. Or sit and read a book or go on Instagram. Or write in your journal.
8) What is my favorite food? 
I think it’s dad’s homemade pizza.
9) What is my favorite drink? 
I think it’s a kind of coke.
10) If I could go anywhere, where would I go? 
Probably Silverwood (Theme Park) again because it makes us happy and it makes you happy.
11) Do you think you could live without Me? 
No. Because I don’t know how to work the washing machine. And people wouldn’t hire me for a job. I’d be poor. Living in Winco. Eating hot Cheetohs.
12) How do I annoy you? 
Making me clear off the table and Logan doesn’t have to help.
13) What's my fave TV show?
 It’s probably Zumbos Just Desserts. Or any cooking show.
14) What is my favorite music to listen to? 
Sad songs. Like Stay With Me, Say You Won’t Let Go and Love Story (Romeo & Juliet).
15) What is my job? 
You have multi- jobs. Keeping us alive. Getting us food. Your other job. Working the washing machine. Making sure Carly doesn’t go outside alone.
16) What's my favorite color?
 I think the whole entire rainbow.
17) On a scale from 1 to 10, how much do you love me? 
About a zero. I’m kidding. A ten.

WYATT NATHANIAL:
1) What's Your Name? 
Wyatt Nathanial Cunningham
2) How old are you? 
I am six years old.
3) What is something I say a lot? 
Life’s not fair.
4) What makes me happy? 
When we’re happy.
5) What makes me sad? 
When dad is gone.
6) How tall am I? 
I have no idea.
7) What's my favorite thing to do? 
Color and read.
8) What is my favorite food? 
Rockaway Beach Ice cream.
9) What is my favorite drink? 
Water with lemons.
10) If I could go anywhere, where would I go? 
Vancouver? Or Wenatchee.
11) Do you think you could live without Me? 
No. Because you’re an important part of our family. Because of you, our family was made.
12) How do I annoy you? 
When you make me do chores.
13) What's my favorite TV show? 
HGTV
14) What is my favorite music to listen to? 
Mr. Mom
15) What is my job? 
To teach Chinese kids English. And to teach us. Like when you help us with our work.
16) What's my favorite color? 
Blue & yellow.
17) On a scale from 1 to 10, how much do you love me? 
Five hundred two thousand and fifty nine.

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1.06.2018

Around Here: Week One {2018}

























(after school... sigh...)
(baby selfies are my fav)






Enjoying... my parents visit.  They brought Christmas presents for the kids and Josh and myself.  My mom bought me Fiestaware bowls in two sizes, and I have to tell you that those rainbow stacks of bowls make me smile SO BIG when I open my cupboards! We completed a puzzle one night, the three of us (which was so much fun!) and they took the kids ice skating.  Best.grandparents.ever!

Celebrating... Christmas with a lunch at my sister's house.  We had a lovely day with her family and my parents.  The only bummer was that we're pretty sure Logan had another mini-seizure.  He was upstairs playing with his cousins when Jack told us Logan was hurt.  By the time we got upstairs, he was fine, but his behavior the rest of the day was off.

Watching... Sugar Coated on Netflix with Josh, and crossing "Watch 3 Documentaries" off my 100 small things list.  (The other two I watched: Naledi & Born in China, which I loved because it's narrated by John Krasinksi, aka Jim from The Office)

Cutting... sugar & carbs (in moderation) from my life.  Josh has cut them completely, whereas the kids and I are going at a slower rate making our changes.  That said, just cutting soda & candy for me has felt tremendous!  Our goal, really, is simple.  Eat real food. So far, so good!  (As in, I started out weighing 200 pounds and have lost five pounds already! What?! What?!)  The boys used to have cereal for breakfast every morning.  Now I make them eggs and sausage or bacon everyday.  Already we've noticed a difference in Logan's focus and last week he aced a reading test, his weakest area.  I hope it continues to change how we all feel.  We are working hard at not feeling deprived, just replacing our old favorites with new ones, and in that same vein, we have decided that homemade pizza + dessert for movie night will continue on Saturdays so we don't feel so restricted that we drop the diet in six weeks.

Ringing... in the new year in my bed.  I spent many years staying up all night for New Years Eve, and started many years feeling like garbage on January 1st.  So for the last ten years or so, we've gone to bed on New Years Eve.  This year I was really motivated to go to bed early cause I taught at 4:00am on the 1st.

Sledding... with cousins on New Years Day and having so much fun! (Blog post forthcoming!)

Videoing... Carly 1000x per day. I am just in love with her voice, her play and all her words.  She's so fun right now!

Receiving... a new (to us) dining room table from Josh's parents that I am loving.  It has an extra leaf that adds 18" and with that in there, it's so big.  It fits our family so much better than our older, smaller table.  Our old dining room table is in the office, though, acting as a desk/play space for the boys and it's perfect in there. Our life happens around the dining room table (breakfasts, play time, homework time, and dinners) and having this bigger one has brought me so much happiness!

Still... nursing Carly once a day, knowing the end is coming, but too sentimental to quit just yet. I am planning to sell my Ergo though, so that's something right?

Choosing... a word for the year.  "Measure" & making goals accordingly.

Taking... Wyatt to physical therapy to help stretch out his achilles tendons which are stretched too tight after a rapid growth spurt.

Shopping... together as a family for groceries.  It's a pain for all six of us to trek to the store, but it's a nice message to the kids that, as we journey towards healthier eating, we're all in this together.

Tracking... dinners and planning to share them with you all weekly as a means of accountability.

Sending... the boys back to school, and relishing in how quiet the house is without them.  That said, Carly and I are desperately missing her playmates.  She got a bit spoiled over break!

Committing... to "No TV" time while the boys were at school this week.  Before Christmas Break I was in a bad habit of turning on the TV as soon as I got home and not getting a whole lot done.  So I want to try a week or two of no screens in hopes that I will get more done around the house and get more reading in.

Reading... Winter Storms (#3 of the Winter Street trilogy), and when I'm finished I will finally read Hilderbrand's new Winter Street book, the bonus #4 Winter Solstice.  I am also re-reading One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp (this is the third time, I believe) and it amazes me how every time I read it, it teaches me something new.  Two days ago I started Idaho, my January book club pick for my book club here in town, and oh my gosh, you guys, I cannot put it down.

Feeling inspired by... Ashley's Gratitude Journal List from December.  It's so cozy & lovely.

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Meals:
Chicken & brocolli
Burgers & sweet potato fries
Chicken stir fry
Steak & asparagus
Marinated chicken & cooked carrots