These first few days back at home have been rough mentally.
Balancing unpacking with cooking, baking and care taking has left me exhausted.
Mix that with three boys who are testing boundaries, limits and rules in a new house, and one little one who is throwing tantrums like no other, and I have found sticking to my new "No Yelling" goal
impossible (ahem) very challenging.
I am working to shape our day, our routine and my chores in a way that makes everything more manageable. For example, the twins cannot follow directions in the same room. A large percentage of my yelling comes from asking them to do something (go potty, get dressed, clean up) and finding them playing "fight game" instead of doing what I have requested. Watching myself, finding out why I am yelling, what my triggers are, is allowing me to identify those triggers and eliminate them. So for our morning routine, I have Logan downstairs getting dressed & brushing his teeth, while Jack is upstairs.
This morning, Wyatt was up first, and I brought him into our bedroom to read books quietly while Josh and I woke up slowly. The twins joined one by one, and soon all three of them were reading quietly in our room while Josh showered. It was my perfect morning.
I hope to continue finding things that work for us, because I hate feeling like such a mom-grouch.
Thankfully I follow some awesome momma blogs that left me feeling inspired yesterday.
Sarah's advice on reconnecting with your children.
I especially want to remember to snuggle. My kids are young enough that they still want to, and I want to treasure this time, as I know it is fleeting. I also want to disconnect from my phone (hard to do!) and read more books.
-There was Nie Nie's hilarious confession about back to school shopping with five kids.
This post almost made me grateful there's not a Target in Marshall. Almost.
-There was Tabitha's post about putting a check in the box.
Seriously, you have to read this one.
-There was Kelle's thoughts on being in the moment, even when you aren't super happy, and sitting with your discontentment. This struck a chord with me.
-There was an excerpt on Rants from Mommyland about loving our kids No Matter What.
And Sarah wrote recently a thoughtful essay about the number of children you have and how it impacts your family. I found it intriguing and it made me look at having another baby differently. It made me think of my sister's family versus mine. I only have one more than her, but that one more (which makes us parents outnumbered) seems to make a huge difference in the amount of chaos that ensues. I love the life she and her husband have chosen for their family and respect their decision to be done having kids so they can provide the kind of life they desire for their two boys. It inspires me to think about how I want our future to look, and if a fourth child fits into that picture.
Oh, and for fun, you should check out Holly & Nathaniel's pictures from their post on returning to their village. (They teach in Alukunuk, which is one of ten other villages in LYSD.) The pictures from the plane are exactly what mine would have looked like if I had brought my camera.
"Learn from the past;
set vivid, detailed goals for the future;
and live in the only moment of time
over which you have any control: now."